What does it mean to have erotic dreams? With friend, stranger and more!

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Jennifer Sherman

What does it mean to have erotic dreams?

Most people think that having erotic dreams about a certain person or in a certain place are a reflection of their secret desires and fetishes. But, actually things in the dream world don't quite work that way. Dreaming that you are having sex with someone can mean a lot beyond the sexual connotation itself.

These dreams can symbolize desires that you possess deep within your soul, it could be the desire to grow professionally, to get someone's positive qualities or even denote repressed sexual desires and fetishes.

Sometimes this dream can also signal problems that you need to fix before it is too late, such as attachment to the past, conflicts with your inner self, lack of dialogue and understanding in your relationship. In this article you can solve all your doubts about having erotic dreams and the possible meanings of having this dream with several people, in different places and more.

Having erotic dreams about someone

Sex dreams can happen with many different people, it can be with someone unknown, a celebrity, your friend or your own partner. To dream that you are having sex with someone does not necessarily mean that you have sexual desires for this person. For each possibility there is a different meaning and below you can check each of them.

Having erotic dreams about the boss

Having erotic dreams about the boss is quite common. It is a reflection that you are aiming for a salary increase or a promotion and will be willing to do whatever is necessary for this goal. This dream may also represent that you are psychologically ready to live new experiences and moments.

Finally, the boss in your dream may symbolize how much you admire him and would like to have someone with the same qualities as your boss.

Having erotic dreams about a co-worker

Erotic dreams with a co-worker that you have always admired means that you wish to possess the same qualities and attitude that he possesses. It may be the responsibility, honesty, ethics and determination that he projects in the work environment.

You are capable of having these qualities with a lot of dedication and commitment, so work very well on this side of you, and you will achieve good results soon.

Having erotic dreams about your ex

To dream that you had sex with your ex does not mean that you still have feelings for him. But, it means that you feel stuck in the past and you miss or would like to relive some event that happened a long time ago.

Sometimes we experience things in the past that were really good or that left a deep impression on us, but don't get hung up on it and move on to the future. You will experience moments that are just as good and unforgettable as those of yesteryear.

On the other hand this dream may also denote your fear and insecurity in starting a new relationship. Do not be afraid to start a new relationship, because everything has its own time. When you meet someone who really inspires you love and trust you may have the chance to start over again.

Having erotic dreams about a stranger

Erotic dreams with a stranger denote a desire to express yourself more, whether in the sense of communicating or even in the way you dress, behave, etc. Do not be afraid to expose your feelings and thoughts to the world. Make an effort little by little, because then you will naturally be able to let go.

They can also symbolize sexual fantasies that you cherish, but are afraid or afraid to put them into practice. Talk to your partner or spouse and at least try them. Of course there must be agreement from both parties before anything.

Having erotic dreams about someone of the same sex

To dream that you have sexual relations with someone of the same sex is not a sign that you are homosexual or possess homosexual desires. This type of dream reveals that you are experiencing a conflict in your subconscious mind.

This conflict may be caused by some event in real life, a doubt about your feelings for someone or even about your sexual option.

Having erotic dreams about a relative

Erotic dreams about a relative may even sound repulsive, but in fact this type of dream is more common than you think. If you dreamed about a certain family member, it is a sign that you admire or even covet and long for a certain characteristic of that person.

You don't necessarily have to be like that person, but just exercise a little bit of those characteristics that they possess and little by little you can develop them.

Having erotic dreams about a celebrity

Having erotic dreams about a celebrity denotes that you have repressed sexual desires and fetishes. It is time to try to share these desires with your partner or spouse. Dialogue and a lot of trust are essential for this situation.

Another meaning for this dream is that it reflects your attraction to something specific about this celebrity that you saw while dreaming. It could be their personality, the way they dress, behave in public, or even some part of their body.

Having erotic dreams about a student or teacher

To dream that you had sexual relations with your student or teacher denotes that you desire attention from some authority figure. This person may be either a teacher or a boss. In this case, it may even be about love desires on this type of person. If the situation is favorable and there is no obstacle, go after what you want.

Otherwise, and depending on the obstacle that is hindering the pair, it is better to invest in someone more viable and with whom you have more chances to work out.

Having erotic dreams with your partner

Having erotic dreams about your partner can be a sign that you may be having relationship problems or estrangement with your partner. However, your subconscious mind comes in advising that the best way out to fix this is sex, which is a lie.

Try to find the root of the problem, talk to your partner and discuss the negative points that need to be fixed. Remember that sex is not the cornerstone of a relationship. Affection, trust and lots of dialogue are extremely important in a relationship.

If during the dream you are practicing oral sex on your partner, it is a sign that communication in this relationship is scarce. The best thing to do is to work more on dialogue and communication by both parties. The very dialogue of daily life with your partner already makes a big difference in the lives of both.

Having erotic dreams with friend

To dream that you have sex with your friend and that you enjoyed it, indicates a need for a more intimate relationship like dating. You desire someone with the same positive traits as this friend in your dream. Perhaps it is a starting point of hooking up a relationship with that person you love so much, it may even be the very friend with whom you are so intimate and admire so much.

This dream can also show that you are starting a new relationship, whether it is a friendship, dating or business relationship. It does not necessarily have to be with the person in the dream, so take it easy and let things flow little by little.

Having erotic dreams in various locations

In dreams you may be performing sexual acts in very different places, it may be in the bathtub, in the kitchen or even in public. To understand each of these types of dreams follow the topics below.

Having erotic dreams in public

To dream that you are having sex in public brings the message of exposure. You may be feeling or afraid of being exposed. It is likely that you are feeling fear of being seen in a very exposed manner by people, and consequently fear that you will be judged precisely because of this.

It may also indicate that you have the desire to expose yourself and feel the adrenaline and heat of the moment during that exposure.

Finally, this dream may also mean that you are ashamed to enjoy all the pleasure in your life. Life is full of good things and there is no impediment to enjoy and feel every pleasure in what it has to offer. Enjoy every second of life, for it is fleeting.

Having erotic dreams in the bathtub

Having erotic dreams in the bathtub symbolizes that you should move forward on your path and not worry about what was left behind. You have a lot of ground still ahead of you, so do not fret or be in a hurry. Everything will work out in its own time and place.

Having erotic dreams in the kitchen

To dream that you were having sex in the kitchen may denote that you need rest. You have been working hard lately, so you need to rest and replenish your energy. Do not overdo it or do more than you can handle. We all have limits, so know how to respect yours as well.

It may also symbolize a lasting friendship that you have. This dream is intended to tell you to take good care of this friendship. Value and care much for this person, because such relationships are difficult and rare to exist in these days.

Having erotic dreams with various elements

Erotic dreams can be established with several different elements, can occur with oral sex or with fetishes such as handcuffs, whip, candle and even BDSM. Pay attention to each of these details, because they are crucial to better understand what your dream wanted to show you. In the following topics you can understand a little more about each of them.

Having erotic dreams with a candle

The meaning of having erotic dreams with candle depends on what state was the object during the dream. If it was still lit is a good sign, indicates that if you are having problems or impasses in your life, a fact will occur to improve and resolve everything. So do not worry, things will improve when you least expect.

However, if the candles were out, it is a sign of betrayal in love. Rethink if things in your relationship are good, if there is something important missing between both parties. Talk and dialogue with your partner and listen to his part. Often a conversation and understanding between the two can avoid many misunderstandings and problems.

Having erotic dreams with BDSM

Erotic dreams with BDSM indicate what BDSM means to you. If you were being dominated during the dream, it means that you are very enthusiastic and that you really enjoy being under the command of someone whom you admire. This can apply in the field of work, studies, etc. If you are dominating your partner, it means that you want to be in control of a situation or even someone.

This dream may also represent the dynamics of your love relationship. Not necessarily you or your partner may be being submissive or dominant in bed, but in the relationship itself. You may be the one who rules the relationship, who always has the ideas or suggests something new for the couple. Or the one who likes to listen and see your loved one sharing his or her ideas with you.

Having erotic dreams with oral sex

To have erotic dreams involving oral sex may mean that you wish to communicate and expose your loving feelings for someone. To dream that you are performing it on a woman may indicate your connection to the feminine power of receptivity. If you were performing it on a man, it means that you wish to be accepted, in the sense of being accepted by society or becoming romantically involved with someone.

If you are receiving it is a sign that you are exploring the vulnerability within you. Perhaps you are being too vulnerable and fragile or need to open up and expose yourself more to the world.

Having erotic dreams about handcuffs

Erotic dreams with handcuffs indicate that just like in the dream, you are "handcuffed." You have lost your freedom or feel trapped in a place or a person. Go after your freedom, you deserve to be free as well as others. It may also signal that you lack intimate desires.

This lack of desire can be correlated to several things. It can be eating problems or mood disorders such as stress and depression. At worst seek the help of a professional who will help you in any way possible.

Having erotic dreams about a whip

Having erotic dreams with a whip denotes that you have a desire to be dominated in your relationship. Talk to your partner and try to set things right. If you both agree, everything can flow well. Even between the four walls.

If you hit someone during sex, it is a sign that your sex life is not going well. In this case, the dream may also be a reflection that you have not been having sex lately and this can be quite normal to happen. However, if you have a partner or spouse and they are not meeting your needs, try first of all to talk and open up to them.

If you are being whipped during your dream, it means that you cannot accept yourself as a person, no matter how much you have your qualities and faults. You have some complexes and identity crises that you cannot deal with. In this case, seek professional help to try to understand yourself better and be able to accept yourself completely.

Finally, if you dreamed that you were at an orgy and people beat their partners with a whip, everything indicates that you are a very creative person. You can use your fertile imagination for many other purposes, it does not necessarily have to be in your work.

It could be a hobby that you enjoy for example. It is possible that in the future you will use this creativity of yours in something that you enjoy and you can reap many fruits.

Having erotic dreams with fantasies

To dream that you are having sex wearing an erotic fantasy symbolizes that you may fall in love with someone else soon. If you are single, prepare your heart. It is time to meet new people, who knows how to make new friendships or interesting contacts. Among these many different people your soul mate may be there waiting for you.

Having erotic dreams about motel

If you dreamed that you had sex in a motel, this means that your relationship will be short-lived. Your relationship may not be everything you thought it was. However, don't be discouraged, you will be able to find someone better and who will really make you happy. After all, life is too broad to keep investing in something that has no future.

Does having erotic dreams mean repressed desires?

Generally speaking, having erotic dreams may denote repressed desires, however these desires are not necessarily sexual. They may indicate that you have a desire to have someone's positive characteristics or even lust for them. They may also suggest a passion that you have been keeping under lock and key, and perhaps it is time to declare yourself to that person.

To dream that you were having sex with someone has very varied meanings according to where, with whom or if they were practicing some fetish. These dreams can symbolize a new relationship, existential conflict, attachment to the past, resolution of problems, and dominance or submission in a romantic relationship.

Keep in mind that you need to remember the details of your dream, because one specific thing can make a lot of difference for a more surgical reading of your dream.

As an expert in the field of dreams, spirituality and esotericism, I am dedicated to helping others find the meaning in their dreams. Dreams are a powerful tool for understanding our subconscious minds and can offer valuable insights into our daily lives. My own journey into the world of dreams and spirituality began over 20 years ago, and since then I have studied extensively in these areas. I am passionate about sharing my knowledge with others and helping them to connect with their spiritual selves.